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il_fullxfull.23741185How often do you hold on to all the times you’ve been “wronged.”? I wonder how many other people are holding on the things we’ve done to them and we don’t even know it.

Bitterness is a poison that destroys lives.

I’ve been bitter. We all have. I’ve made lists and held dirty laundry against people that I struggled to get over. Tonight as I sat in the sanctuary of a church listening to the pastor talk about relationships, confrontation, taking initiative, being passive aggressive ect. All I could think about was how much energy all of it takes.

Exhausting right? There is too much good to fight for and too many beautiful things to see. When it comes to mental health and relationships things usually get complicated…. fast. I know things did in my family and for my friends and I. I’ve been blessed with gracious friends and family that have learned a lot along the way; but that doesn’t change the fact that a lot of crap happened. So what do I do? What do you do? What do we do?

We forgive. We say “I was wrong” if we were. And we move on.

Easy? No. Necessary Yes.

….Unless you want to spend the next 20 years hurt, angry, frustrated and unable to smell the roses or appreciate the people coming and going right before your eyes.

Remember: Forgiveness is not a one time deal… its a daily act of love, self-love and love for others.

Today I’m forgiving myself for wasting any time in my life feeling or being bitter.

My name is Erin and This is Where I Stand.